Letting go doesn’t mean giving up, but rather accepting things that cannot be

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Another indication of high-conflict cases are those that keep going back to court, over and over again.

If you're back in court many times, that's a sign of a high-conflict case and from my experience, it's the cases that go more than two years from start to finish, in terms of using the court system, that are typically ones containing at least one high-conflict personality.

This happens in part because people with a high-conflict personality don't seem to have the ability to grieve and heal loss.

Roughly 80% of people are moving forward in their lives after a separation or divorce within two years, but 10-20% are still stuck.

They may be just as upset as they were at the time of separation, and that's usually a sign that someone has a high-conflict personality, with difficulty healing and grieving loss.

Also, the inability to accept loss and change keeps some high-conflict people coming back to court to challenge each court decision and sometimes take them to the courts of appeal. That’s why they call them “frequent filers.”

These are all characteristics of high-conflict cases in the eyes of judges and other professionals.

If you want to avoid becoming a high-conflict case, you want to manage your end of the case as much as possible by having managed emotions and flexible thinking, keeping your own behaviour quite moderate, and taking responsibility for your part in problems rather than exclusively blaming the other person. (checking yourself)